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Popping the cherry: Debunking the myth of virginity

CW: rape/sexual assault  Everyone has a unique and personal relationship with virginity, which is greatly shaped by the cultures we grow up in. Even in communities that are most “liberal” about the concept, there remains a certain ambivalence over whether ‘losing our virginity’ is something to be proud or ashamed of. On a global scale, Read More…

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#Notallmen, but nearly all women.

TW: sexual assault I was sexually assaulted as a child. Since then, I have been groped in bars or large crowds, I’ve been catcalled, approached in public by men asking for my number or making comments about my tight running clothes, and I’ve been followed down a busy street by a man in broad daylight. Read More…

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The ‘ick’: are we being unreasonable?

I was walking with a friend recently when she pointed out a man wearing sandals with jeans. “That gives me the ick”, she said. This was the start of her so-called “ick list”, which consisted of gems such as “when a man is rude to his mum”, or the arguably less valid “using an escalator” Read More…

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Nice To Meet You, I’m A Slut!: A Rough Guide to BDSM

CW: consent, BDSM BDSM: bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism – a fun little acronym for “spicing things up in the bedroom” (if you err on the side of euphemism). Let me begin by gently reminding you that BDSM is more than just gear; there’s more to it than floggers, cuffs, rope, Read More…

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Nice To Meet You, I’m A Slut!: An Ode to Boundaries

Many of us will be familiar with the concept of ‘drawing boundaries’ – with friends, family, or partners – in acts of self-preservation. Therapists will lecture you on the importance of boundaries and how we, as adults, are responsible for creating them as well as adhering to them. But it’s all so much easier said Read More…