How do you figure out if you want to be casual or serious in relationships, or stay entirely single? Ah, yes, the age old question; we stare despairingly at ourselves in the mirror and demand to know “WHAT DO YOU WANT?”. With choices as limited as they are at the moment, it is even more Read More…
The perpetually single typically despise Valentine’s Day as a brutal reminder that they are alone in this world – without a person to buy stuffed animals and boxes of chocolates for. However, as someone who heavily romanticises singledom, I reject this embittered view of a holiday which – essentially – is simply one about love.
In her weekly column, Alice Garnett opens up regarding the internalised biphobia that she and other bi-women have struggled with.
Alice Garnett explores the phenomena of ‘post-nut’ clarity and the ‘dick haze’, and the problematic stereotypes they reinforce.
Had you asked me this question three months ago I’d have answered vehemently with a definitive: “YES.” Because why would I – a young, beautiful 21 year old in her prime – limit myself to one partner?! The notion seemed ridiculous. As I’ve mentioned in previous pieces, at secondary school I was a serial monogamist. Read More…
Casual-anything (dating or sex) can be carefree, empowering, and fulfilling – given the right circumstances – but it can unexpectedly veer into an emotional minefield of confusion, bitterness, and heartache.
Whilst I don’t think there’s much harm in the odd shag for – I don’t know – ‘old time’s sake’, I think a FWB relationship which entails fairly regular sexual contact can be a recipe for disaster.
It’s as if the concept of female pleasure, of the female orgasm, is so alien to them that the idea of asking ‘how was it for you?’ simply slips their mind. Maybe not even ‘slips’ because that would imply the idea was ever there in the first place.
There are elements of trial and error in kink-stuff; sometimes you’ll try a thing and someone won’t enjoy it – that’s okay! You must always respect someone’s boundaries and their right to say no to anything (and no, they don’t owe you an explanation).
Oxford-life and the way everyone-seems-to-know-everyone can often lead to crossover situations; friends getting with friends/friends’ crushes/friends’ previous sexual partners. It can get pretty messy pretty quickly.