Had you asked me this question three months ago I’d have answered vehemently with a definitive: “YES.” Because why would I – a young, beautiful 21 year old in her prime – limit myself to one partner?! The notion seemed ridiculous. As I’ve mentioned in previous pieces, at secondary school I was a serial monogamist. Read More…
Casual-anything (dating or sex) can be carefree, empowering, and fulfilling – given the right circumstances – but it can unexpectedly veer into an emotional minefield of confusion, bitterness, and heartache.
Whilst I don’t think there’s much harm in the odd shag for – I don’t know – ‘old time’s sake’, I think a FWB relationship which entails fairly regular sexual contact can be a recipe for disaster.
It’s as if the concept of female pleasure, of the female orgasm, is so alien to them that the idea of asking ‘how was it for you?’ simply slips their mind. Maybe not even ‘slips’ because that would imply the idea was ever there in the first place.
There are elements of trial and error in kink-stuff; sometimes you’ll try a thing and someone won’t enjoy it – that’s okay! You must always respect someone’s boundaries and their right to say no to anything (and no, they don’t owe you an explanation).
Oxford-life and the way everyone-seems-to-know-everyone can often lead to crossover situations; friends getting with friends/friends’ crushes/friends’ previous sexual partners. It can get pretty messy pretty quickly.
I don’t believe biphobia often comes from a place of malice; I think many people are still unfamiliar with the terminology and the general do’s and don’ts surrounding bisexuality thanks to a lack of bi visibility throughout society.
First, second, and third dates are often the landmark events in any dating journey; they’re a time for first impressions, the opportunity to amend said first impressions, and a time-frame in which you’re traditionally expected to go from total strangers to lovers. But it’s rarely that straight-forward.
The more we normalise being single, the less embarrassed we will feel when we ask for a table for one. I want that for the future; a world where we can exist as individuals as opposed to in pairs.
Alice Garnett reveals the natural and sublime beauty of her northern hometown Matlock, and reminisces on her connection to it.